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By the Rivers of Babylon


Well people, we back wid a vengeance! (so to speak). We want to keep this unique line of communication and resource that is PledgeAllegiance available to you.

It’s a fine day to be Bajan (as is everyday) and a better day for a relaunch!

On to business…

Every year, Barbados, like other Caribbean islands and lesser-developed nations, exports what is a most valuable commodity. We export young people (and the young at heart) whose goal is to further their education. Brilliant minds!

Many of you reading this belong to this group (after all, the mission of this blog is to keep you connected in our own way) & that is great.

But now you “are” an emigrant, a foreigner, different, a minority, African-American or Black (as opposed to Caribbean or Barbadian). Some people find it hard to wrap their head around the fact that the distinct intonation that is your unique accent is actually real, whether you are of African descent or not. I say that you “are” these things because, let’s face it; the society you’ll be trying to navigate will label you this way. This is how they will initially perceive you. For some, they will hold tight to that perception just to be comfortable. You don’t have to accept these labels, but it can be shock being thrust into a storm of cultural relations.

And so, one inevitably struggles with how to maintain aspects of oneself that are culturally related; and constantly presented with situations that, aware of it or not, are in fact markers along one’s journey to a well-assimilated individual or an individual experiencing difficulty defining oneself in a new culture. However, assimilation (the process of absorbing the culture and mores of another population or group) does not have to be synonymous with discarding/forgetting one’s past.

How do you navigate what is now a new reality, so to speak?

I asked my Facebook friends to weigh in on the topic by sharing any advice that they would give to foreign students coming to the US (read: any other country).

  • Be prepared to work hard.

Jah will bring forth milk & honey, yes. But it will only happen as long as you are aware that contrary to popular belief, The Land of Milk & Honey only exists where one is willing to raise the cows and milk them yourself; and become a beekeeper and bear some stings. Nothing will be given to you. Chances are because you are “different” you may have to work a little harder than every one else (sometimes just based off the fact that no one understands a word you are saying because of your accent). It is definitely a case of action speaking louder than words. If you put in the work and stay prepared, when the opportunities arise, they will allllways be yours.

  • “Us Americans can be rude, sometimes closed-minded, but don’t take it  personal. Most of us are good people.” – from an American friend

It is within the nature of a human being to fear what he or she does not understand… or at least avoid it. Just be yourself and make some friends. It is important to develop a social network. A strong supportive one doesn’t have to be large, but should be effective in adding to your experience positively while you are far away from home.

I feel it would be remiss of me not to mention the phenomenon that occurs when you are the only person, on campus or in your new locale that is of your origin. People automatically come to see you as the Representative of your culture, nationality, country; and you automatically become the archetype of what a(n) >insert your nationality here< is, & how a whole nationality behaves. Certainly there is a level of ignorance that must exist to comfortably place that burden on an individual. But the fact of the matter is that it happens. I am not telling you not to live your life the way you see fit and are happy to do. I am saying that like it or not you become the unofficial ambassador of a country, so choose an aspect of your life that you will be glad to accept the responsibility and act accordingly; whether that be academics, professional relationships, social interactions, athletics, etc.

  • Try not to get mix up in Babylon system!

As a former Resident Assistant, I have seen the effects irresponsibility has on many a foreign/international student career. There are rules at university (who knew???) and if you get caught breaking them you will suffer the consequences. In some cases offenses, alone or when repeated enough times, will land you a suspension or expulsion. Not being in school when on a student visa is a no-no, and the fastest way to find yourself back home before you even get a chance to make Dean’s List.

Beyond the penalties your college imposes, if your offense breaks the law, you will end up out of school. Do not pass go; do not collect your degree. You will be deported.

So I guess my advice would be… Don’t. Get. Caught. Juuust Kidding! Actually a major problem for us coming from countries where for example the drinking age is 16/17, is dealing with the alcohol laws in countries like the US (21???  Who does that??). In MY opinion (and not necessarily the opinion of anyone else who is associated with this blog), don’t get caught. I am saying that based on the assumption that telling you not to drink will be a waste of (internet)breath and you will do it anyway. Seriously though, be smart about the choices you make. And if you are breaking a rule, don’t earn the award for the idiot who posts the pictures on facebook or jeers at the security camera. Seriously, I can’t make this stuff up.

  • Kiss the right person’s ass.

Ok so maybe these words are a bit harsh, so to be politically correct, in the words of Ms. D. Lashley herself, “Make strategic alliances – get personal and friendly with the staff in the bursar’s office and student affairs.”

This is valuable advice for life. Period. Find some one you like to interact with in each office that isn’t a hard ass (He/she doesn’t need to be your bff) and forge a genuine relationship with that person. On days when the money dad wired is coming via a sloth and you can’t make a payment, or your flight got cancelled and you can’t move out by the deadline, or you absolutely need to get into that class because it is a requirement, having a friendship with a bursar, a Residence life hall director, or a registrar is extremely helpful.

And last but not least, and of the most importance it seems,

  • Stay connected to your culture

This was the most offered piece of advice. It is also, in my opinion, the most valuable. This is how you stay grounded. This is how you do not forget who you are, where you came from, where you’re going and what it takes to get there. This is how assimilation, though not always smooth, becomes less of a stressor.

–       Communicate often with relatives and friends from back home. Sometimes all you need is to hear a familiar voice.

–       Join a group or an organization that relates to your culture. It’s a great way to meet people who share similar beliefs and have a similar background. Yes, I know, the point of college is to diversify, expand, and appreciate differences, & build new relationships. If you don’t join a group or you are not on a campus with a high population of Caribbean students, making connections with other international students is a good idea.

You will miss home. If you don’t miss home in its entirety you will miss aspects of it. The food, the music, the people, the language, the customs… at a minimum you will learn to appreciate all the thing that came together for you to have the absolutely unique and fantastic experience of a Bajan/Caribbean upbringing.


NAPPY Chronicles: Co-Washing Magnificence

Inspired by the Napptural Twitterverse, I decided to try a co-wash. It’s summer and my hair needs it. Heck, who am I kidding, as long as I’m living my brillo textured hair will need all the moisture in the world.

Well, first what is a CO-WASH? Its basically a conditioner (no shampoo) wash. Based on the fact that naturally kinky hair can demand a lot of attention in the area of moisture, and most shampoos contain ingredients that actually counteract moisture absorption, a CO-WASH is like a much needed defrib for natural hair flatlining in the moisture department. For more info on what it is visit my tweep @thenaturalbride blog She has lots of great stuff over there in the realm of naturalness.

You’ll need:

  • A bottle with an applicator tip OR if you are into recycling (like I am) an empty bottled water bottle will do for mixing and applying.

My Co-Wash Recipe:

  • Cheap conditioner: VO5, Suave, Aussie, Whatever is on sale with a good fragrance will do
  • Melted shea butter (add a few drops of your fave essential oil if you desire)
  • Olive oil (depending on how dry your hair is you may be able to skip the shea butter and just add your essential oil to the olive oil
  • Feel free to add a little bit of a deep conditioner … I did. lol
  • Shower cap/shopping bag (yes… shopping bag… when you can’t ride a horse ride a cow… and my locs are long enough where a cow is necessary)

Mix these ingredients in your water bottle/applicator bottle. Notice I did not include quantities. This is intentional, averaging is an art, and I trust that you know just about how much product you will need to saturate your hair. You can keep the mixture warm by submerging the bottle in warm water until you are ready for it. Apply the mixture evenly to the hair. If you have locs, make sure you get it in there really good. Massage the scalp and work the mixture through the hair. Cover the hair with the shower cap/plastic bag and let sit for as long as it takes you to shower or for as long as you want (minimum 3-5 mins according to @thenaturalbride). Rinse really well (to avoid build-up) with cool water. Oil and style as usual etc.

    Brillo locs much?

    My Results:

    My hair has been going through a severe drought and I was really motivated by the softness and the great smell of my hair! It definitely feels softer and with a little oil up I can see the difference. I had deep conditioned and washed about a week ago but did not have the opportunity to retwist so this was the perfect solution to the rewash vs. quick water rinse dilemma. I definitely recommend for natural heads! And it doesn’t hurt that your hair smells absolutely heavenly afterward!:)

    Let us know how it works for you!

    I don’t have to take this!! I’m going home!!!

    “To the f—–g a–hole who told me to f–k off, it’s been a good 28 years,” Slater, 38, purred, cops said. “I’ve had it. That’s it,” he added, a passenger said.

    The mad-as-hell steward grabbed a couple of brewskis and popped one open before activating the emergency exit, witnesses told airport employees.

    – Read more from the NY Daily News

    In happier times

    By now we have heard about Steven Slater, a 38 year-old fight attendant of Jetblue Airlines who threw up the deuces minus the index finger in more ways than one to passengers on his flight on Monday. After activating the emergency chute he walked through the airport, got into his car, drove home and got into bed… allegedly.

    When I first caught wind of this I have to tell you, I was almost brought to tears I was laughing so hard. I’m sure I was not alone in my initial reaction. In retrospect, though it was not my proudest moment finding comedy in another’s pain, I am human. Beyond that, there are some very serious issues that this incident highlights. As a member of a service-oriented industry and as a fairly frequent flyer I can’t help but have mixed emotions about this incident.

    The issues are identifiable, but far from exclusive or self-sufficient. Being in the business of serving others directly, which differs greatly from having employment in a service industry, is a task. Most of the time you are trained to people please, appease the customer because he/she is always right, and cater to the customers’ needs because their business and loyalty are invaluable. And as well we should because “humans” are the greatest commodity. But often times even the presence of blatant customer error, employees are forced to operate by the standards of practice of the company to placate the customer and furthermore, to stay employed. Let’s face it you may not love your job but you sure as hell like having one to pay these bills.

    Slater was allegedly hit in the head, either with a bag or the door of the overhead compartment, by a rude and belligerent female flyer who refused to adhere to Slater’s repeated requests to do what airlines want passengers to do before taking off. He flipped, the words as quoted from NY Daily news were spewed from the depths of his embittered soul, and he left… Like Steve Urkel, he decided he didn’t have to take it anymore and … he went home. If you have ever worked in retail or any other type of customer service, especially offering a product to customers who think their shit smells like Chanel No.5 (and it probably does cause they have the money to make that happen from the inside out), you have encountered your fair share of people who believe they are above the law, or above the “silly little musings of a poor little servant girl”. But like you were droided trained to do, you smile and serve. Do this for 20 years, lose your dad to disease in recent years and travel back and forth to take care of your mother who is terminally ill with cancer (deep breath in) and you might find yourself saying what a courageous man he was, not for snapping, but for activating the chute before jumping off the plane.

    On the other side of the fence, you have already been terrorized so much by the process that it is not strange to find yourself in combat mode by the time you are seated on your flight nowadays. Flying has become the tunnel at the end of the light (#HIGO): hidden fees, long lines, bag checks, pay per bag, pay per pound, over zealous TSA agents, lackadaisical TSA agents, kleptomaniac passengers, delayed flights, delayed flights on the runway, delayed flights on the runway for hours, NO FOOD ON DELAYED FLIGHTS ON THE RUNWAY FOR HOURS, no leg room, the guy sitting behind you that won’t take his knee out of your back, turbulence, $7 sandwiches, $5 for 8 mini pretzels… I think you get the idea. Add to that all the stress that’s already going on in your life and, yeah! I could see how turning into Lara Croft/the Incredible Hulk is absolutely possible.

    I think we can all agree that there is something inherently wrong and getting exponentially worse with the airline industry, that is, as passengers. But now Flight attendants the world over are hailing Slater as a hero, showing us that the problem goes deeper than we think/know.

    It is difficult, extremely difficult, to strike any kind of balance between customer satisfaction and employee satisfaction on a regular day. In a tough economy where loyalty is a dominant currency in business this is even more complicated to achieve. Regardless of the complexity of the issue, in service, customers and employees in direct contact with customers are equally important. Loyalty then, like real currency, becomes subject/victim to the dynamic relationships under pressure.  The boss, the server and the customer all expect loyalty or some form of respect from the others in different levels and capacities. The man in charge suffers , but he suffers differently and is compensated far more adequately for current and future suffering. The customer has recourse in complaints, word of mouth discrediting of the service and taking their loyalty else where. The server has quitting or disciplinary action. (insert blank stare)

    It’s unfortunate what happened on that Jetblue flight on Monday, but it proves that human equals humane NOT ! (Borat voice of course). My advice is the next time you find yourself in a position where you could possibly end up going to jail, costing someone his/her livelihood, or costing someone his/her life… take a second to count to 10. Hopefully before you get to 10 you will realize that as shitty as your day has been, there is that possibility that this person’s life may be inceredibly worse. Not that you should take joy in that, because you shouldn’t but it should have one of those transcendent, we-are-the-world, empathetic feels about it. And if empathy isn’t your thing maybe pity from the thought that their life is so much more depressing than yours will give you cause to pause before you act. Something has got to give!


    So…by now I am sure you have noticed that we have been quite M.I.A. around here. Life happened… not a good reason, hell it’s not even an excuse. Actually I hang my head in shame of the fact that we call ourselves Bajans here and somehow did not cover the goings on of CropOver 2010. That is made worse by the fact that this year so many of our friends and colleagues played quite an active role in adding to the quality and depth of festivities throughout the season and great opportunities have been missed due to our slackin’ on the mackin.

    And there was no lack of material either! What more to top off the season that true true BACHANNAL… and we ain’t talking bout de tent! Hehehe.

    But I can’t indulge in that gossip. I will leave that to more reliable sources i.e. Allegiance staff actually ON the island. Wink wink.

    Going through the material here I don’t mean to brag but, we are on to something great here! And it doesn’t hurt that it brings a unique Caribbean peace to my soul to read some of these articles and your comments

    So… essentially, this is me renewing my allegiance to this blog… and to you the readers who supported and inspired.



    Honestly, it is at times like these that I regret letting my oblivion in organic chemistry deter me from pursuing a career in medicine. But before I let myself be over run with regret, what-ifs, dreams deferred and whimsical wishes, I bring myself back to reality. The reality is not that my value as a person and what I would like to do is insignificant, but better yet that what we can do now as members of the human race is indeed of epic proportions in significance.

    In the west, Haiti has been overlooked for a number of years. It would be somewhat cathartic for me to get into theories and point fingers at governments, imperialism and colonialism, slavery, corruption, but it won’t change the events of Tuesday evening. Nothing can. But what happens now is that we can all be held accountable because at this point one has to choose consciously and fully not to respond, not to be moved, and simply not to help. The issues and conditions in Haiti that have contributed to making a bad situation worse are sadly conditions that exist in other countries… this means that as we sit and watch the chaos and destruction in Haiti on television, there are others living in similar conditions that existed in Haiti prior to this tragedy.

    My heart aches when there is tragedy in the world. The tsunami in Asia, the earthquakes in China and Italy, the fires in California. But I will openly admit that even in those instances there existed an invisible distance between myself and the victims. It wasn’t something that I consciously perpetuated but somewhere in the back of my mind the fact that people didn’t look like me, or spoke my language, or were geographically far away allowed me to let go of my worry and my concern too soon – because it wasn’t me. But now that my close friends are suffering, unable to locate their loved ones in Haiti, it’s a little closer to home. Now that this country of strong independent pioneers – pioneers that look like me – in a country whose landscape closely resembles mine from the coconut trees to the banana and mango trees in the backyard, has suffered such devestation, I cannot help but see brothers and sisters when I look at my people’s suffering faces. Sadly enough that is what we should all see regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, social class or status – but let’s face it . . . we don’t.

    So my urge to you is that,  yes Haiti needs you now. Yes. Haiti needs us all. But if for some reason you feel that distance that I spoke of, here’s what you should do. Find a cause. Find a cause so that when you look into the faces of hardship you feel further away from the self that you once were before you found your cause, than the self that you become afterwards. I am not condoning prejudice in any form, I am stepping over it. The truth of the matter is the world some of us live in is not the world that the majority of citizens on this planet are able to experience. So even if you chose to ignore the fact that another human is in need of your help in Haiti, also know that there are humans in need of your help on all seven continents and the islands in between. Close your eyes… spin a globe and stop it with your pinky. I assure you that wherever your pinky landed, there is a cause worth fighting for there, even in the ocean.

    You can donate monetarily or give of your time, or just spread awareness.

    Call your local 311 or 411 to be directed to legitimate orgs.

    Visit for a steadily increasing list of orgs.

    Text “HAITI” to ” 90999″ to give $10 directly to Red Cross for relief efforts

    Text “Yele” to 501501 to give $5 to Wyclef Jean’s org which is very active in Haiti. As of right now I suspect the website server is just inundated with traffic.

    Red Cross needs Creole speaking volunteers for a 24 hour PHONE BANK! CALL B. WILFORD @ 305-776-6900.

    Medical professtionals needed in Haiti. Airlines are working with consulate call 212 697 9767 for more information. Feel free to pass the message.

    [Update 1/14/10]: More ways to help

    The International Committee of the Red Cross has also established a family linking Web site, enabling persons in Haiti and abroad to search for and register the names of relatives missing since the earthquake. While the American Red Cross asks that donors consider making a gift to the International Response Fund, we will honor donor intent and accept gifts specifically designated to the ongoing response to the earthquakes in Haiti. If you wish to designate your donation to the Haiti earthquake, please do so by mailing your donation with the designation [“Haiti Earthquake”] to the American Red Cross, P.O. Box 37243, Washington, D.C. 20013.

    Compliments Sade Jemmott of the FB Group “Whas De Action?!!” for those of us living in the Caribbean who would like to help:

    To make a donation just call OR text the word “Help” to the number below.

    Directions to send a text donation:
    Step 1: Open new text message
    Step 2: Type HELP as your message
    Step 3: Enter the number to for your country (e.g. If you’re in Barbados, enter 5151)
    Step 4: Press Send

    To send a call donation:
    Step 1: Dial the right number for your country (e.g. If you’re in Barbados, enter 5151)
    Step 2: Wait for it to answer. You’ve now automatically made a donation to help Haiti. Thank you.

    1. Aruba/Bonaire/Curacao 5151 (Cost: NAF $1.00)
    2. Anguilla 5151 (Cost: XCD $1.00)
    3. Antigua & Barbuda 5151 (Cost: XCD $1.00)
    4. Barbados 5151 (Cost: BBD $1.00)
    5. Bermuda 5151 (Cost: USD $1.00)
    6. Cayman 5151 (Cost: CI $1.00)
    7. Dominica 5151 (Cost: XCD $1.00)
    8. Guyana 1133 (Cost: GYD $100.00)
    9. Suriname 2727 (Cost: SRD $1.00)
    10. Trinidad 5151 (Cost: TTD $3.00)
    11. Jamaica 162 (Cost: JD $25.00)
    12. TCI 5151 (Cost: USD $1.00)
    13. BVI 5151 (Cost: USD $1.00)
    14. FWI* 999 (Cost: E $1.00)
    15. El Salvador* 2001 (Cost: USD $0.30)
    16. Panama* 5151 (Cost: USD $0.50)
    17. Honduras* 9090 (Cost: L $5.60)

    ALSO for the US posse:

    T-Mobile USA Waives Call Charges to and From Haiti; Pledges Support of Wireless Equipment to Assist in Restoration. Check out the link for more details. FREE MINUTES!!!

    VISA, American Express, and MasterCard have decided to wave fees attached to donations made to SPECIFIC organizations… follow the links for more info.

    Visit the Haitian Consulate Website for directions on what and how to donate and locations at which to drop donations.

    Sidebar: And if you are hoping to go overseas and volunteer in Asia or parts of Africa there are a number of  orgs that you can go through. Just do your research since it can get pretty expensive and there is the potential for a very difficult experience. One of my fave orgs with thorough info, affordable opportunities to volunteer and good reviews is CARPE DIEM my friends!

    God Bless our Haitian brothers and sisters.

    For Our Children – Holiday Gift Drive

    Ladies and Gentlemen,

    Christmas is fast approaching! Like you didn’t know already with the xmas ads that started in November and all. This year has been a rough one. We lost jobs, we lost homes, we lost things. But even with all the things that we have lost, we haven’t lost the people that genuinely care for us. And in the sad event that we did, we still have the memories of their love and support. This holiday season we may receive less than we have before, but we may also find more value in the things we already possess and the things that can’t be bought.

    So . . . in the true essence of the holiday spirit I’d like to share an opportunity with you; one that will allow you to give hope and joy to others. Ms. Doreen King in association with Good Vybz Inc. has organized a Christmas donation drive to benefit the children and disabled wards under the care of the Barbados Child Care Board. This is a great opportunity for you and your trendy friends to say,”Hey, instead of gifting each other why don’t we donate to charity??” (wink wink)

    The following is taken from the Facebook Event page:

    There are currently nine (9) children homes in Barbados with a total of ninety-two (92) wards ranging from babies to adults with disabilities. I am appealing to you all to remember these little ones, generously open your hearts and contribute gifts so that they too know they are remembered and loved and know the joy of receiving something special at this time of year. Consider the impact your gift can have on a child’s life!!

    Please see below a list of the wards’ Gift ID no.s (no names listed to preserve their confidentiality), Gender, Age & Requested Gift. We are requesting that you select at least one (1) child to make their wish come true! Please contact me soonest with your interest in partaking in this worthwhile venture.

    Tel. No.: (631) 662 4614

    Gift ID Gender Age Gift/Wish
    W1 – Male 13 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W2 – Male 10 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W3 – Male 10 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W4 – Male 10 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W5 – Male 6 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W6 – Female 11 – Educational Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W7 – Female 8 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W8 – Female 6 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W9 – Female 9 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W10 – Male 9 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W11 – Male 7 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W12 – Male 5 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W13 – Male 10 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W14 – Male 8 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W15 – Female 14 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W16 – Female 15 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W17 – Female 9 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W18 – Female 11 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W19 – Female 13 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W20 – Male 12 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W21 – Male 7 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W22 – Male 10 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W23 – Female 15 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W24 – Male 9 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W25 – Male 13 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W26 – Female 13 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W27 – Female 12 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W28 – Female 9 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W29 – Male 16 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W30 – Female 14 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W31 – Female 12 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W32 – Female 14 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W33 – Female 10 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W34 – Male 16 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W35 – Male 13 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W36 – Female 17 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W37 – Male 11 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W38 – Male 15 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W39 – Female 16 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W40 – Male 14 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W41 – Male 13 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W42 – Male 17 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W43 – Female 17 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W44 – Female 16 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W45 – Male 11 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W46 – Male 11 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W47 – Male 14 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W48 – Female 14 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W49 – Female 2 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W50 – Male 3 – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W51 – Male 21 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W52 – Male 18 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W53 – Male 16 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W54 – Male 6 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W55 – Male 18 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W56 – Male 4 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W57 – Male 6 months – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W58 – Female 10 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W59 – Female 5 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W60 – Female 11 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W61 – Male 9 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W62 – Male 7 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W63 – Male 7 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W64 – Male 5 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W65 – Male 5 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W66 – Female 34 – Skirt suit size 3XL & & Photo Album
    W67 – Female 31 – Earrings & Photo Album
    W68 – Female 28 – Earrings & Photo Album
    W69 – Female 27 – Shirt suit size 2xl Adult & Photo Album
    W70 – Female 21 – Skirt suit/pants suit size 16 children size & Photo Album
    W71 – Female 18 – Chain, Photo Album & Book
    W72 – Female 17 – Shorts suit size 12 children’s size & Photo Album & Book
    W73 – Female 16 – 2 dresses size 16 children, Photo Album & Book
    W74 – Female 13 – Ipod , Photo Album & Book (She sings very well & is invited out to perform but needs to hear the songs)
    W75 – Female 10 – Shorts pants suit size 12 children’s size, Photo Album & Book
    W76 – Female 10 – Skirt suit size 12 children’s size, Photo Album & Book
    W77 – Male 40 – Pants size 34, medium shirt adult & Photo Album
    W78 – Male 29 – Size 34 pants & medium shirt & Photo Album
    W79 – Male 18 – Pants & shirt size 16 children, Photo Album & Book
    W80 – Male 16 – Pants & shirt size 14 children, Photo Album & Book
    W81 – Male 14 – Pants & shirt size 14 children, Photo Album & Book
    W82 – Male 13 – Toy guitar, Photo Album & Book
    W83 – Male 11 – Jean Pants & shirt size 16 children, Photo Album & Book
    W84 – Male 5 – Pants size 8 children shirt size 8, Photo Album & Book
    W85 – Male 5 – Interactive books & Photo Album
    W86 – Male 13 – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W87 – Male 10 – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W88 – Male 7 – Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W89 – Female 12 – Educational Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W90 – Female 10 – Educational Toy, Photo Album & Book
    W91 – Male 14 – Watch, Photo Album & Book
    W92 – Male 13 – Musical Toy, Photo Album & Book

    [UPDATE] Unfortunately there will not be a gathering, however be assured that the delivery of the gifts will be accompanied by a serenade of the sweet sounds of Christmas by the one and only Kirk Brown of Strategy “the Energy Band”.

    Don’t forget to contact Doreen King for more info: Tel. No. (631) 662 4614   Email:

    For those of you who wish to make monetary donations, checks may be made out and sent to the address below. This way the Admin Assistant will be able to purchase the items and save the receipts as needed for all persons that donated.

    Battery Rock, St. Lawrence Gap
    Christ Church BB15018,
    Barbados W.I

    Rest assured that all the children are going to receive a gift so even if you can’t get all the items for your chosen ward, 1 will make a difference.

    The NAPPY Chronicles: Arctic Survival

    It is currently 28 degrees F, factoring in the wind chill it is 20 degrees. In Bajan measurements i.e. degrees Celsius that is around -2 degrees Celsius. (btw that’s a minus in front of the two, not a typo) EXCELLENT!!!!

    Today is as good a day as any to address the effects of this arctic blast on your, my, our hair.

    It is with temperatures like these that people who have moved from warm climates have to adopt a mantra of reason. We reason with ourselves that we can endure, that we are here for a reason and the ends will justify the means. And when that fails, as you maneuver the arctic chill, you just mutter things under your breath that would make your momma slap you if she heard them coming from your mouth.

    Can you rock a baldy?

    Though everyday of winter may not be subzero, around this time one needs to pull out the inner Rambo because believe it or not, this is survival of the fittest. If you want to greet spring with healthy (or closer to healthy than conceivable) hair, if you do not want to be forced into a BIG CHOP before you are ready, if your head is too big or unshapely (in your opinion) to be rocking an Ebony from Season 1 of ANTM, you might want to pay attention to what I’m about to say. Here are a few tips to help you come out on the other side of winter with hair on your head:


    I can’t stress it enough. Locks, Fros, perms, blow outs, Nia Longs, Halle Berrys – they all need moisture. If you can afford to, treat yourself to a deep treatment at your salon once a month. If you can’t afford that, treat yourself to a deep treatment at home. In your pantry you most certainly have a treatment for all types of hair – Olive Oil. I forget if Extra virgin is the thickest but in any case, after shampooing and using your regular conditioner you saturate your hair in some EVOO  wrap it up in some Saran wrap or a few plastic shower caps and go about your regular in-house routine for as long as you want until you are ready to shampoo it out. Lucky for you, you can also use it as a base oil, add some

    fragrance or aromatherapy oils to it (loves me some bergamot, lavender & rose mary) to use as a “daily” moisturizer. The Body Shop’s hair masques work well esp. Brazil Nut. I also recommend Organic Root Stimulator Shea Butter Softening Hair & Scalp Lotion for keeping hair supple out of the shower. Natural heads especially loc heads- take heed that there is a balance you will need to find between too much product and too little. Too much product attracts dust particles and lint and causes build up in your locs (see The Lint in My Locs). Too little product will do nothing to counteract the brillo texture, or prevent the literal disintegration (breakage) of your hair. Contrary to the hype, locs shed… picture brillo that hasn’t been used in a while. Can you see the rust on the inside? Exactly. Coconut oil is another good pantry option for a base oil.


    Cute but dangerous

    You really can’t survive without a hat in these temperatures. I don’t even care if your afro alone could qualify you for the black power movement or a stint to replace Huey on the Boondocks. Be mindful that a hat that warms your head can hurt your hair. Knitted beanies and berets can be your worst enemy. These warm little headpieces can leave so much lint in natural hair it wouldn’t be melodramatic to shed a tear over it. Hats may also cause breakage and suck the little bit of moisture left out of your hair  – natural or other wise. And losing moisture is a no-no. So my recommendation is to stop wearing hats…. JUST KIDDING. When buying hats one should ensure that there is a protective lining on the inside of the hat. And while it would be perfect if every cute hat in the world was made this way, it is not always possible, so invest in a moisture friendly scarf to wear under the perfect enemies you will have no choice but to purchase. Be mindful of if you will be required to remove your hat out of etiquette – you might not want to wear that old silk scarf you’ve been wrapping your hair in since high school.


    Product causes build up… and build up can cause that musty smell. You know the one. For females it is the one that will cause you to be very careful about how you hug people. It causes you to lean forward in de fete so that people think you are dibbin out but really and truly you just don’t need for this guy to be close enough to get a whiff. Washing the hair too often causes dryness. You strip the hair of natural oils and also impair the follicle’s ability to absorb moisture. There are a number of “dry” cleansers out there that you can use on your scalp. Most of them are alcohol based and work in a way to up lift the oil based build up on the scalp and allow you to work it out with a washcloth. If you are not a fan of these cleanser again, find a balance between light moisturizers that do the trick.

    If you find that you suffer from a flaky scalp, Tea tree oil makes a good addition to your EVOO concoction. Tea tree has natural antibacterial properties and helps with dandruff and flakiness of the scalp as well. You can also add this oil to a fragrance free shampoo. Be sure not to apply tea tree oil directly to skin or scalp by itself, it must be mixed with something first. Also in the winter months, wash less often with your clarifying shampoo. I know it cleans really well but it can cause excess drying of the hair in winter.


    Got Lotion?

    In these months your hair is not the only thing that will need attention. Chances are if your hair is dry, then you may not need to look any further than your elbow or knee cap to know that your body is crying out for moisture.

    When I used to work at the Body Shop I had a customer put me on to the fact that sometimes a craving isn’t just a matter of being hungry. Sometimes you may experience phantom smells of fruits or beverages. And since then I have noticed that when I crave sunflower seeds or I keep smelling the sesame seed body butter I don’t have, my body may be crying out for vitamin E. When I’m craving blueberries, my body may be requesting a boost in antioxidants. (I can’t explain craving Popeye’s on these terms except for the fact that that chicken is damned tasty.) What you put into your body is just as, if not more important than what you put on it. You don’t want to be like Ashy Larry over there 🙂